Surround Yourself With Those Who Celebrate You

Worship ministry is never a one-man show. You can be the best singer, the best musician or the best worship leader. But all it takes is for the PA guy to turn-off your sound and you’re done.

I visited a church once where just before the start of the worship set, the sound guy was playing some background music from a CD. As the worship team got into their positions, suddenly the sound guy turned off the background music. Then silence. He should probably have gently faded out the sound. Mistake number one. I think this took the worship leader by surprise. She turned around to the team and said (wuite irritably) “Why does he always do that??!!” It was loud enough for me to hear and I was sitting in the back row! That was mistake number two; and it was a major mistake.

Why? The sound guy should probably have been corrected, but not in front of the whole team, let alone the whole church.

Like Paul’s exposition in 1 Cor 12, we need to realise that we need each other. Each part of the team has an important and crucial role to play and we need to remind ourselves of this all the time.

But because we are interdependent with our team, we should also ask ourselves: what sort of people should we let in to our inner circle?

When I was leading a pioneering team a couple of years ago, we formed a “Think Tank” of passionate, respected worshippers as our leadership group. I valued all of their views and opinions even though I didn’t agree with everything.

At work, my boss hates it when I agree with him. He thinks a bit of disagreement is healthy. Especially so when we are trying to work out a legal problem; understanding the opposing arguments helps us to formulate our case better. I agree with him (!).

Socrates used to teach that a “thesis” should be balanced against an “antithesis”, leading us to the “synthesis”.

So when working in your team, always be open to different ideas. My music director was a case in point. Every now and then, he would whisper into my ear that the song I had chosen for this weekend was too unfamiliar or difficult for the congregation or the band to pick up. Sometimes, I’d follow his advice. Sometimes, I’d take in on board and still go ahead with what I had planned because I had a purpose in choosing that song.

What is important is that the disagreement isn’t personal. At the end of the day, everyone in our team knew that we saw the best in each other and we wanted the whole team to succeed, both corporately and on an individual level.

I’m still reading Joel Osteen, so here’s another thought from pp 135-136 of Everyday a Friday:

Is your inner circle of friends holding you back? Are those closest to you with you but not for you? If you find that it takes constant effort to win their support and encouragement, they likely don’t understand your destiny.

The Scripture says, “Do not throw your pearls before swine” (Matthew 7:6). You could say your pearl is your gift, your personality. It’s who you are. When you get around true friends, people who really believe in you, they won’t be jealous of your gifts. They won’t constantly question who you are. They won’t try to talk you out of your dreams. It will be just the opposite. They’ll help you polish your pearl. They’ll give you ideas. They’ll connect you with people they know. They’ll help push you further along.

Do not waste your time with people who don’t value your gifts or appreciate what you have to offer. That’s casting your pearl before the swine. Those closest to you should celebrate who you are and be happy when you succeed. They should believe in the very best of you.

Recently, I was coordinating the worship on an intercessory boat cruise as part of the city-wide Commonwealth Prayer Initiative (when CHOGM was in town). One of the worship leaders I invited to take part in it was a guy I had met some years ago. A pastor in the city had connected me to this worship leader because I was wanting to see if we could set up a worship leaders network in the city. This worship leader was part of such a network in Singapore.

I remembered how we spent hours just sharing about the vision and the possibilities. But it never went much further than that and I got too busy doing things in my own church.

The boat trip rolled around and I got to reconnect with this worship leader. We were waiting that day to load up the boat and we were having a quick bite of lunch on the pier. I asked him, “What is missing in the worship landscape in Perth?” and he said, “people who knew how to lead worship and intercession”. I asked whether there were people in Perth who could do it and he said he could think of two: him and me. I was surprised, but I was also encouraged.

To reach the destinies that God has given each of us often takes a lot of faith. Even now, when I think about the possibility of starting a worship network, I am filled with doubt. But I know that I have at least one ardent supporter!

The fact that I got to lead worship on this boat trip was also due to the support of my former worship pastor, who was on the organising committee. She must have thought that I was the right person for the job to have asked me!

Now, we don’t need the approval of people, because we have God’s approval. But it’s encouraging and uplifting when you know there are people who support you, encourage you and celebrate you.

So when you build your team, surround yourself with those who celebrate you; who seek the best for you; who believe in you; and who believe that they will play a part in your reaching your destiny. They don’t always have to agree with you; but even when they don’t agree with you, you know that they will always be there to cheer you on.

Breaking the Competitive Spirit

I’m learning so much from reading Joel Osteen’s book, Every Day a Friday. It’s a book all about living with the right attitude and so much of it is applicable to those of us in worship ministry.

Today, I want to look at the spirit of competition. My next post will deal with the sort of people you want on your team.

I think worship leaders tend to be naturally competitive. As much as we’d like to deny it, it’s a ministry where your skills and talents are on show.

When I first started in worship ministry, I couldn’t sing very well. In fact, when I was in school, they wouldn’t let me sing in the choir because my voice wasn’t quite “ready”. In our team, we used to have heaps of brilliant singers. One guy I sung with used to be able to sight read notes and sing in Latin. And then there was this other singer. You just had to ask for a note and he could sing it for you pitch-perfect.

Actually, when I think about it now, I’m not that great a singer still. I can hold a pitch, but often I get caught up in the moment, lose concentration and go flat.

Joel Osteen shares a great thought about Saul and David in 1 Sam 18:7 (Every Day a Friday, p 133). After David had defeated the Philistines in battle, the women began to sing “Saul has slain his thousands, David his tens of thousands.”

Saul became angry and jealous. First Samuel 18:9-10 (Msg) says:

This made Saul angry—very angry. He took it as a personal insult. He said, “They credit David with ‘ten thousands’ and me with only ‘thousands.’ Before you know it they’ll be giving him the kingdom!” From that moment on, Saul kept his eye on David.

David and Saul could have been a great team. But their relationship began to deteriorate. And in the end, so did Saul’s hold on the kingdom. It seems to me that David had such an attitude that he would never have wrested the kingdom away from Saul. He would never have “touched the Lord’s anointed” (a verse, which by the way is often taken out of context in Charismatic church culture) and he would have been an invaluable resource to have at Saul’s disposal. Instead, Saul’s attitude made it impossible for David to serve under him.

Osteen observes:

One of life’s tests requires learning to celebrate the successes of others. You may be tempted to be jealous or critical when someone rises higher, passing you up, whether it’s in the office, on a team or in an organisation…

The real test as to whether God continues to promote you is how well you handle the successes of others. Can you celebrate what God is doing in their lives and not be jealous or critical, or feel you are in competition with them?

When John the Baptist was baptising people, a certain person asked him “Who are you?”. His response was telling: “I am not the Christ.”

As worship leaders, we need a healthy understanding of who we are, and who we are not.

Whilst the temptation still arises from time to time, I am becoming more secure as to the giftings God has given me. I accept that I’m not the best singer. I don’t have much of a musical ability. But I celebrate the unique talents God has given me.

In fact, someone said to me the other day they thought I had a great voice. I told them that actually, that’s not my thing. My gfit is as a worship architect. I have a great sense of envisioning the flow of a worship set from start to finish; I was good at linking songs, thoughts, themes and prayer together. This person said he thought I also knew how to say the right things to exhort people during a song. I was good at that too, and I accepted the compliment!

Knowing and appreciating your place in the body is an important attitude. But even more is the belief and the hope that those who work with you; who train under you will one day exceed you.

A couple of years ago, we were leading a pioneering ministry of some 30 singers and musicians. Early on, my co-leader and I told the team that we hoped that, a couple of years into the gig, we would rotate the leadership. We saw leadership potential in our midst and we knew that it was entirely possible that that potential would soar beyond our own.

I believe God is accelerating the generations. The next generation could well be savvier, more interconnected and more forward-thinking than my generation. I hope to keep up; when they surpass me, I’m going celebrate and support those who will reach further than I could ever have. And I hope that with my support, they will go further than they could have on their own.

Turning Off the Sound

In his book Everyday a Friday, Joel Osteen shares about how, when he was in charge of producing his father’s TV broadcasts, he would sometimes turn off the sound to see what the guest preacher was communicating through his countenance.

I like that idea.  I wonder how many worship leaders (if they were muted) would have a countenance that draws people in; that is inviting.

One day, I will try this on myself.  I’ve already had a couple of still photos taken of me, and I think I often look like I’m grimacing.

As worship leaders, our on-stage “performance” (whether you like that word or not) is an important element of what we do.

The next question then is whether we can learn to put on the right countenance, even if this means, as Joel Osteen puts it, “we fake it til we make it”.